Good Read: The Untethered Soul

22 February

I really enjoyed this book! I turned the last page feeling refreshingly clear-minded and in control of my thoughts. Which, kind of was the goal here. At times I noticed that the author was a bit redundant, but after getting through several chapters initially, I appreciated the dwelling on topics I related to a bit more. I liked the different perspectives and examples, it allowed me to open my mind wider and grasp concepts better. My takeaways are threefold…

1. The Inner roommate

Last year was a tough for me–one of the most frustrating years { mentally } in my life. I was lost in my own thoughts/criticisms/self-doubt. I really felt I’d lost control and believed all of the things my mind was telling me. I’ve always been a positive person, but somehow I got caught up in a bunch of negative banter and it weighed on me for a while. I should have opened this book sooner! The more interesting learning was that the inner voice/dialogue in your mind is not actually you.

I love how he asks to imagine our inner dialogue as an actual roommate. Having to live with someone who just blabs all day every day, criticizes you, questions you. How it would be incredibly draining to be around the person. What’s fantastic to learn is we can kick that roommate out, or at least close our bedroom door.

“There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice in your mind – you are the one who hears it”

2. Most of the inner dialogue going on in our mind is rooted from fear

I loved the example of talking to someone and all of the sudden, they say something that hits something inside of you and your heart starts to close. Your mind starts questioning “did I do something wrong”, “why did they say that”. You start to dwell on it and you can either think “I need to solve this right now” and continue to get worked up OR you can just relax and let it pass. It’s up to you.

“To be free, simply view pain as a temporary shift in your energy flow… If you relax when the pain comes up inside your heart, and actually dare to face it, it will pass.”

3. Keep an open heart

I loved this chapter. It talks about how we either let things pass through us or we let it disturb our inner peace. This really hit home. I loved his relatable everyday illustrations:

There was this one car, a light blue Ford Mustang, that looked like your girlfriend’s car. But as it passed by, you noticed two people hugging in the front seat. At least it looked like they were hugging, and it sure looked like your girlfriend’s car. But it was a car just like all the other cars, wasn’t’ it? No. It wasn’t just like all the other cars to you.

Our minds then go down this path, trying to solve a problem that isn’t even important at this point. We slowly close, block our energy, and weight is now on our shoulders. Instead of just taking it for what it is, and letting is pass through. It’s as easy as that…

“Once you fall from your seat of relative clarity, you are under the mercy of the disturbed energy. If that blockage is stimulated by an ongoing situation, you may stay down there for a long time… You may feel that you have to do something drastic. You may want to leave your husband or wife, or move, or quit your job. The mind starts saying all kinds of things because it doesn’t like this place, and it wants to get away from it any way it can. The key is to understand that if you don’t let go immediately, the disturbing force of the activated energy draws the focus of your consciousness. As your consciousness gets immersed in the disturbance, you lose your clear seat of Self. It happens instantaneously.”

I feel like I’m very self-aware, but understanding that I have control of letting something disturb me or not is so enlightening and helpful. You don’t have to get involved in the mind’s drama. (Amen to that). You don’t have to think anything about it, you just have to let it pass you by…


“The highest state you have ever experienced is simply the result of how open you were. If you don’t close…This can go on all the time–unending inspiration, unending love, and unending openness. That is the natural state of a healthy heart.”